Hedley Paul (‘HP’) conducts beautiful and evocative wedding ceremonies for loving couples; consequently he is for many planners and venues their first choice celebrant. For over a decade on Ibiza and Formentera HP has delivered sincerely treasured ceremonies,whetherSpiritual,religious,HumanistorBuddhist.Experience his experience!If the Magic White Island of Ibiza has a spiritual ethos it is one of freedom and respect, which inspires you to celebrate your marriage in whatever manner or style you wish. You may choose it to be traditional, contemporary or alternative, but every ceremony, as the most personal, and the focal aspect of your wedding day is precisely crafted in discussion with you. HP delights in making it very personal and fun for you both by including your story, your unique account of how you met, and how you feel about each other. He believes strongly that weddings are happy occasions, a time to enjoy, to smile and laugh together.As a father and grand-father, HP believes strongly in providing for his couples precisely what he would expect for his children or grand-children: The finest ceremony, in an open and honest manner! He always liaises meticulously with venues and other specialists to ensure your perfect wedding ceremony on Ibiza. Your ceremony is founded upon the energy and love that binds you together, and generally will take approximately 25-35 minutes. That will of course depend upon what you choose to include as content, making the ceremony truly bespoketoyou.If you feel that a female celebrant will better empathise with your dream ceremony, Hedley Paul works alongside a charming lady who is a very experienced and extremely competent celebrant.HedleyPaul-thenaturalfirstchoiceforyourIbiza Wedding Ceremony.Contact HP without obligation simply by clicking thegreenbutton.
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Hi Hedley Paul, I wanted to email you to say thank you again for a beautiful wedding ceremony last Saturday and for all your help, support & involvement - it has been lovely working with you over the past year or so - everything came together perfectly last weekend .........the vows of commitment we said to each other. They were just perfect. Thanks again for everything, really appreciateitl.F
Paul - the ceremony was fantastic and thank you for guiding us through everything so expertly and calmly when we were both pretty nervous!We truly had the best day ever, and we will never forget it, so thank you for being a part of helping make that happen. I hope the rest of the season goes well for you. Best Wishes, C&N
What do past clients think of Hedley Paul? (see more comments at bottom of the page)Hi Hedley Paul, Hope you're well and enjoying the Ibiza sun.The dust has finally settled on our side, after the most magical day of our lives, so finally getting round to sending out comms.But now we're back L. and I wanted to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for making our wedding ceremony so incredible.Your ideas and your flow was brought up by the guests all day and evening, complimenting how amazing your service was.I personally couldn't have asked for more and wanted to get a thank you out to you directly.Take care of yourself and hopefully our paths will cross again. A&L Oct. 2017What type of ceremonies do you provide?Every ceremony is bespoke to the couple’s wishes and can be Spiritual, Religious (various faiths) Humanist, Buddhist, or an integrated combination of these.Who do you work for?I work directly with/for the couple who are marrying. I do not work for wedding planners or venues, but happily with them. I am completely independent, and proudly provide a totally professional approach to weddings and blessings. My business is based in England.What about the number of guests?I am equally pleased to host ceremonies for just the couple, or for groups with over 200 guests.If more than say 40 guests, a sound system will probably be needed.How early do I need to book?As early as possible. While there are still many days available in 2018 I am accepting bookings now for 2019, and even into 2020 so if you wish for a specific date be first to enquire/book it. Weekends and bank holidays tend to be most in demand for both me and venues.How much does a ceremony cost?Fee for a wedding and blessing ceremony: £525 in 2018 and £600 in 2019Fee for a renewal of vows ceremony: £475 in 2018 and £525 in 2018More details here.PLEASENOTE-THEREARENOHIDDENEXTRASORTAXES.Can I pay in other currencies?Yes - no problem, at the XEtrade exchange rate on the day of payment. Please ask for details.How do we book you for our ceremony?If you make an enquiry about a date, (just click ‘Easy Contact Form’) I will reply, giving details of how to place the deposit in my English bank account (£100) which will secure the date for you. Once the deposit reaches my account, the date is securely yours.Can I meet you before I book you?Yes - either on Ibiza, or in the UK, but probably the easiest way is by Skype video or similar. Can we see a video of you at a ceremony?YES- videographer Gary McManus made these videos : 123If we Skype, when will we actually meet you in person?I always meet couples a day or so before the ceremony to ‘walk through’ who-does -what-when etc.Normally I arrive at the venue at least 30 minutes before the ceremony commences, so I then meet the groom etc. while we await the bride/bridesmaids.How can I be sure I get the date I booked?Make the deposit (£100) by cash or bank transfer, or by PayPal, then the date and time is secured.Is it a race to place the deposit?Not really. When I reply to your enquiry you have first refusal on that date/time for one month. If you have not paid the deposit within the month I presume you are not intending to proceed, and it becomes freely available to everyone.Can I change the date or time that I booked?Yes - provided the new date/time is available, you can change without additional cost.Do you perform ceremonies in other places?Yes, anywhere in Europe, given my availability to travel, and the price of travel (and accommodation) for me. Outside Europe, please ask.Can we have our wedding in a church on Ibiza?With me as celebrant, No. The churches insist on a priest hosting the ceremony which would be a full Roman Catholic Mass. Can we hold the ceremony on a boat?Yes - no problem.Can we get married on a beach?Yes and No - Beaches are public places, and permission from the local town hall/administration is required. Some are very easy to deal with, some not. Please contact me to discuss. Please remember also that almost every beach will be VERY busy during spring and summer. Many venues have beach fronts - ask them when you book.What time does the sun set?The sun sets into the sea on the WEST of the island. For sunset times clickHow long is the ceremony?The average tends to be about 30-40 mins. It really does depend upon what the couple wish to be included. The quickest ever was 12 minutes, the longest 75 minutes - in both cases it was what the couple wanted and were very happy with.Is there a standard format?No - it is always up to the couple themselves. However, I can/do offer advice and suggestions; there tends to be a ceremony pattern as follows:Bridal procession/entry - Welcome - Introduction - Reading - Vows of Commitment - Exchange of rings - Ritual….. Sign Certificate - Final Blessing and farewell - Marriage procession.Can we choose our own vows and readings?Yes of course - choose/write your own, and I am happy to work with you to make them great for your guests too.Can guests read, or sing/play music as part of the ceremony?Again - Yes of course. I will assist where possible.Can all the guests sing - for example a song or hymn?Again, yes of course.We are different nationalities - can we have the ceremony in more than one language?Yes - that’s not a problem - in such cases I call in colleagues who provide the other languages. Please contact me for details/discussion.What do you wear?I normally dress in all white, however if requested I am happy to dress in accord with the couple’s attire/wishes.What should we wear?Something cool! The weather will invariably be HOT - think 35+C, so sitting/standing in full sun can be oppressive for the couple and their guests. Beyond that advice, the day is yours, and a dream to be lived. An Ibiza ‘white wedding’ is popular with local people - everyone wears all white, which is smart, cool, and relaxed.Can you organise chairs/food/drinks/flowers/car/photographer/venue?While I am happy to signpost you to reliable suppliers/providers I am a celebrant, not a wedding planner/organiser. I prefer to do what I do well rather than attempt to be a ‘Jack of all trades’, so the simple answer is sorry, but ‘No’.What do past clients think of Hedley Paul? Hi Paul, Just arrived home after a fantastic holiday in Ibiza.I just wanted to say a huge thank you for giving us such an amazing service - We absolutely loved it - thank you again. Take care, R&C April 2017Hi Paul, Hope that you're well. We're finally back to reality unfortunately after a fantastic couple of weeks over in Ibiza. Just wanted to thank you again for all your help on our wedding day, the ceremony was absolutely perfect and everybody thoroughly enjoyed it, everything went better than we could have ever imagined!We've hundreds of photos on WhatsApp from friends and the memories are incredible, please let us know if you would like us to send some through and we're more than happy to. Thanks again for being a part of our special day, the memories will last a lifetime. K&B 2017Evening Hedley hope you are well. D and I just wanted to send you a wee email to thank you for a lovely and very touching ceremony last Thursday. We both have much love for one another and the ceremony and kind words reinforced that in us both. Our whole family have commented that it was the most moving and emotional wedding they had ever been too so it is amazing to know that they all have special memories and feelings associated with it too.I think everybody left Ibiza last on Sunday with just a little more love and compassion in their hearts than what they came with. We are the lucky ones, we are still here and celebrating in Es Canar until Saturday and then we will take those special feelings home with us and fill our house with them.Please let us know the best way to give you any recommendations and we will be sure to give our best ones.Again, many thanks and be assured we will never take the words or promises we made to each other lightly. Take care, K&D. 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Here’s a typical ibiza blessing ceremony:An introduction by Hedley Paul to the ‘Magic White Island’, and welcome to your Blessing Ibiza - a few little secrets about the Magic White Island.A little about each of you and your lives so far. Your meeting, the magic of your love, your wish to make vows and be blessed here on Ibiza; Your family and friends, and now - the celebration today.Reading/poem by me or a guest (optional)Vows of commitment to each other (led/guided by H.P.)Blessing and then exchange of ringsYour personal ritual of bonding (optional)Signing and witnessing of the certificate of commitment.Pronouncement - You are now Husband and WifeConclusion and blessing of the marriage by those gathered, and absent friends.Marriage processionAdd your choice of entry and celebration music.BlessingsBlessings are a gift to be cherished because they last for ever, giving us strength when we may need it.In fact anyone can offer a blessing - ‘Bless you!’ we exclaim when someone sneezes. A blessing can be in almost any form, some short, some long, some poetic.An Ibiza civil wedding and blessing is very simple but incredibly powerful. It is a focus of approval and well wishing from the gathered family and friends, and from those called upon by the celebrant. The blessing is a moment of focus for the combined energy of love and good wishes felt by those present, also those present in thought and spirit.The benefit of having a celebrant to offer the blessing, is that they will help you find the words and phrases that perfectly evoke and reflect your sentiments of the occasion. I believe that a meeting and discussion to discover the dream you hold in your heart is vital to a sincere and memorable blessing. That meeting may be by video link across the world, or face to face on Ibiza or in England. VowsIn practice, wedding vows precede the blessing. We normally offer our blessing and support to a person or a couple who have just made a sincere commitment, and called upon those congregated to witness that public commitment.A vow is a statement of intention. A solemn promise made to the world, in front of others. We state our intentions on a daily, almost hourly basis, but undertaking a vow before witnesses lifts it for public gaze and scrutiny.A totally professional approach to conducting your ceremony on Ibizablessings-on-ibiza - for life’s big occasions which areNOT a rehearsal!
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There are many reasons why you decide to renew your wedding vows with abeautiful and romantic Ibiza Wedding Ceremony. It may be that your children have at last fled the nest, and you are once again a couple embarking a new life; or it may be that as you enter the ‘third age’ together, you wish to declare your lasting love for each other. You may simply want to declare to the one you love, before the world.... “I love you more than ever!”There is no requirement for a ‘reason’ other than you both feel that you are soul mates and really, really want to.........there is no better place in the whole world than the magic White Island of Ibiza, or better host than Hedley PaulPic: A Renewal of Marriage Vows on their 10th wedding anniversary at Sirenis Country Club. The Ibiza Sand of Unity ritual was part of it, with their three boys joining them to seal the family circle.Raff and Tory sent this pic and a beautiful message....We would both like to thank you so much for being part of our special day. The family sand ceremony will be in our hearts forever. The service you provided was perfect! Even in such heat!!!Thank you again.For over a decade couples return to Ibiza after even just one year of marriage to renew their vows while on holiday. No big event to organise, no pressure from family, no big expense. “.....This time it’s just about us.......” was their comment. On two of those occasions, it came as a big surprise for the wife - but what a beautiful anniversary gift!Your ceremony can be structured either to be traditional and formal or more relaxed and informal, according to your wishes. You can include personal elements such as favourite songs and poetry of your choice. Marriage is the creation of a family, and with children the family grows. Some couples delight in renewing their vows and including the children in the ceremony. All hold hands and make their vows and promises to to love and cherish one another.A renewal ceremony can provide an excellent opportunity to involve your children and even grandchildren. They can participate, be it by way of lighting of candles, standing as witnesses, giving a reading, or whatever unique contribution they might offer. Of course........ you may wish to simply ‘elope’ to renew your wedding vows and enjoy a very personal and very private occasion, after all it really is all about YOU!As a memento of the occasion, we present you with a unique and beautiful Certificate of Commitment as a personal record of that magical moment when you renew your wedding vows. It is for you both to sign, and we happily witness.
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Ibiza is the perfect relaxed wedding location for all couples. The island enjoys a global reputation for its liberal attitude, and it warmly welcomes those with alternative beliefs and lifestyles, and has consequently become an increasingly popular venue for hosting a wedding or partnership celebration..The ‘Magic White Island’ has an incredibly vibrant and exciting gay community, which integrates seamlessly, creating a wonderful, friendly cosmopolitan society. Hedley Paul - ‘HP’ - has always summarised the ethos of the island in one single word..... That word you will find in many public gardens, normally in five languages: Respect!By mutual exchange it makes the island such a beautiful place.Ibiza’s wedding ceremonies range from small intimate sunset occasions - often on a quiet beach, to extrovert and extravagant wedding party celebrations at an Ibiza villa or restaurant.
Blessing and commitment ceremonies are for couples who wish to make a special pledge to each other, and wish to publicly declare their vows in front of family and friends, without necessarily taking the step into legal marriage - for whatever reason. HP provides an opportunity to enjoy a sincere and meaningful ceremony, surrounded by family and friends.You enjoy a marriage of love, of two hearts and two souls, joined for all eternity.You both make a public proclamation of the feelings shared by two people who love each other.Every ceremony is sympathetically planned and crafted, typically including poems and readings, proclamations of commitment to each other, exchange of wedding rings, and a blessing.If you feel that a female celebrant will better empathise with your dream ceremony, HP works with and can introduce an experienced and skilled lady who is also totally comfortable with same-sex weddings. We create together that beautiful ceremony that you will remember always, precisely to the format and style you wish. We can make it very personal for you by including your storys, your unique accounts of how you met and how you feel about each other.Whether you wish the ceremony to be simple, creative and stylish, or a flamboyant occasion, it should truly reflect who you really are. Let Hedley Paul create and host the ceremony, then just relax and enjoy.That done, your day will be perfect!
A special day to ensure your child receives your promise of unconditional love, acceptance, and support for their future.A Naming ceremony is to honour and recognise the arrival of a child into the family.It allows all those gathered moments of stillness and focus to reflect upon their responsibilities to the new arrival. Ibiza provides a unique combination of serenity and energy, a perfect starting place for a new life.It creates the opportunity to celebrate their name which gives them their identity and makes them unique.Any parent can make the arrangements to hold a Naming Ceremony, and likewise can anyone who has parental responsibility or legal guardianship of the child or children. Parents do not have to be married and can come from any cultural background, with any spiritual or religious beliefs, or with none.Many parents nowadays are neither religious or church goers, and feel that a Christening or Baptism would be inappropriate.It may be that you wish your child to make their own choices about what they believe when they are old enough to make an informed decision. Welcoming or Naming Ceremonies are a delightful and memorable way to welcome a new baby or child into your family, regardless of their age.It is also a wonderful opportunity for welcoming step children when two families come together. It can be a very moving and deeply bonding experience for everyone concerned to mark the start of their new lives together, helping bond the new family. For adopted babies or children it can also be a very loving way to welcome them into your family and to publicly declare your love, commitment, and joy at the outset of your new lives together.Hedley Paul (‘HP’) will work closely with you to create a ceremony which is personal to your family. The content is entirely up to you and the words will be precisely as you wish. I do have a selection of outline ideas, readings and poems that may be helpful to you.The ceremony may also include the nomination of Supporting Adults, Guardians or Guide-Parents, (a secular equivalent to God-Parents). They may be close friends or members of your family who wish to make a vow of commitment to guide the upbringing of your child or children. You may also like to make Parent’s Promises and acknowledge the special roles taken on by grandparents, brothers and sisters, and/or other family members.At the conclusion of the ceremony I provide a beautiful naming certificate to bear witness to the occasion, and signed by all those who have made vows recognising the important role they will play in the future development of the child.
A special day to ensure your child receives your promise of unconditional love, acceptance, and support for their future.Where can we hold a naming ceremony?The choice of venue is entirely up to you. Many namings are held in villas or gardens, in restaurants, or a beautiful spot on the island! Inside or out, as long as you’ve gained agreement from the relevant person, it’s entirely up to you.Are naming ceremonies legal?A naming is an entirely private occasion, and so there is no legal status to the ceremony. It’s very different to registering a child’s birth which has to be done through a register office within 42 days (UK) of your baby’s arrival.Is my child too old to have a naming?Children appreciate their special days at any age. Hedley Paul (HP) can help make sure the occasion is tailored to your child’s age and your family situation – perhaps calling it a ‘welcoming’ rather than a ‘naming’ for example. Some families also have a joint naming ceremony for an older child as well as a new arrival.Can we have a joint birthday party and naming?Absolutely – and you’d be in great company! A great number of the naming ceremonies our celebrants conduct are combined with a first birthday party; it’s a double celebration at a time when you might well have gathered friends and family together anyway.Do you conduct adoption ceremonies?Yes. HP is delighted to arrange an adoption ceremony to mark a new family unit, formally welcoming a child (or children) to the community. Perhaps celebrating the completion of the legal process. These occasions can be very emotional and can focus on the journey to adoption, thanking those who helped and supported the parents along the way.Can I appoint ‘godparents’ at a naming ceremony?Most families choose to appoint adults to play a significant role in their child’s life, and that’s often one of the main reasons many people choose to hold a naming ceremony in the first place. How many (if any) godparents – or equivalent – you appoint is entirely up to you. HP can suggest commitments for them to make, or other ways of involving them in the ceremony.Is there a non-religious version of the word ‘godparent’?There are many to choose from. ‘Guideparent’ is popular although you might consider ‘mentor’, ‘sponsor’ or ‘guardian’ for example. However, since it’s a term we all know and understand, others prefer to stick with the word ‘godparent’ whilst acknowledging that the religious aspect of the role isn’t relevant in this case.What happens at a naming ceremony?HP prepares each ceremony for the individual and their family to accord with their circumstances, That said, many namings last be so the format will be unique. It will typically be about 20 - 30 minutes duration, and can include readings, parental promises or commitments, the appointment of guideparents, and some kind of formal ‘welcoming’ or ‘naming’ of the child. Something about them as an individual, and of course, some tears and laughter! Typical structure of a naming ceremonyWelcomes and introductions Reading or poemBackground about the child – their arrival, personality, interests so farExplain the importance and responsibility of parentingParental promises to the childReading or poem Importance and role of wider family (e.g. grandparents, cousins, etc.)Appointment of guideparentsGuideparents’ promisesReasons for the choice of nameThe naming itself (various forms are possible)Concluding wordsHow much work is it to arrange a naming ceremony?HP understand how little time (and often how little sleep) parents have, and so will work with you to make the process as easy as possible. He will visit you – often at your home/villa – to find out what you want from the occasion and then keep in contact by phone and email.I’d love a naming ceremony for my child but hate public speaking. Do I have to say anything?Though most naming ceremonies involve parents making some kind of commitment or promises to their child, you can do this by simply answering “we promise” to questions asked by HP. For example, perhaps just one parent could speak. If no one wants to speak, HP will find a way round this – perhaps reading promises on your behalf. The most important thing is that you enjoy the day and the ceremony expresses what you want it to.I love the idea of a naming ceremony but don’t know where to start.That’s very common and not a problem. HP will lead you through the process, giving you as much help and guidance as you need for you and your situation. He can suggest readings, music, promises and advise on all the big and small issues to help the day to go smoothly.We don’t go to church, and we don’t want a christening. Can we still have a naming ceremony?Of course you can! HP’s ceremonies are available to anyone who wants a non-religious, personal and meaningful way of welcoming their child to the world.My grandmother is very religious and I don’t want to offend or upset her. Will a naming ceremony be okay?Absolutely. HP recognises that every ceremony will be attended by guests of many faiths, and of none. Everyone present should be made to feel comfortable and involved. Namings focus on the child as an individual, the joy and responsibility of parenting, and all those close to the child. People of faith find namings just as moving and enjoyable as those who live their lives without it.Does it matter that I’m a single parent / we’re not married / we’re a same sex couple?Absolutely not! HP is delighted to help any parent or couple mark their child’s arrival.We had our first child christened. Can we have a naming ceremony for our second?Of course. HP recognises that people’s priorities change, or maybe they haven’t heard of naming ceremonies until later. If there is anything you wish to include about your first child at your second child’s naming, HP will ensure this is done in a sympathetic way.I don’t really know any poems or prose and can’t imagine that anyone will want to read one. Must we include readings?You don’t have to have anything in the ceremony that you don’t want and that certainly includes readings. That said, there are a surprising number of great readings and poems that are suitable for naming ceremonies and you might want to look through these before deciding whether to include one. If there’s something you do like but no one wants to read, your celebrant will be happy to read it on your behalf.How long does a naming ceremony last?This depends on what you want to include but as a guide around 20-30 minutes. HP is very conscious of little people’s attention spans when he creates ceremonies, and so less can certainly be more.I’d like to say why we chose our child’s name. Can we do this?Yes, and in fact that’s often a highlight of the occasion.There is nearly always an interesting story about how the child’s name came to be chosen and it can be lovely to recount this. The same goes for any middle names and, on occasion, surnames.Are naming ceremonies chaotic with lots of small children around?They can be, but we think that’s half the fun! As a parent and grandparent, HP is well used to the unpredictability of working with lots of young children around. We can suggest some tips to keep slightly older children interested, but mostly the relaxed atmosphere and child-oriented occasion mean that any disruption from smaller children is unlikely to cause problems.How much does a naming ceremony cost?The fee structure changes year to year and can me found HERE. When you contact HP to check his availability on a particular day he will also tell you the fee.Many hours of preparation go into writing a naming ceremony the fees compare very favourably with what some register offices charge for a naming, which is far less flexible in content and possible venue.I love the idea of a naming ceremony but my partner isn’t convinced. What should I do?This isn’t unusual. Perhaps the best way forward is for the unconvinced partner to phone or meet HP via Skype so they can find out the positive aspects for themselves. Can I involve my other children in a naming?Yes, and it’s a lovely thing to do. Big brothers and sisters can say something themselves if they wish, or perhaps give their younger sibling a significant present (like their favourite book from when they were very little) or maybe even make a promise themselves. HP can suggest lots of ways of making sure the occasion is about the whole family and not just the newest member.Can we involve our child’s grandparents?Yes. Grandparents are often popular choices to give readings or perhaps to make some promises to their newest grandchild. And since grandparents are so important in many children’s lives, it’s often good to mention them by name and perhaps to say something about their special relationship.Dear Hedley Paul, We've just arrived back in the UK and I wanted to take the first opportunity to thank you again for such a beautiful naming ceremony. Everyone commented on how much warmth, dignity and grace you brought to the ceremony and I couldn't agree more. You welcomed A. into the world in such a kind and generous way it made her day truly magical. We can't thank you enough. With very warm wishes N,J, and A.
Hedley-Paul Ibizat: 971 338 244m: 664 689 575Englandt: 020 8123 0262m: 07909 917 email@example.comI believe that a meeting and discussion to discuss and tease out the dream you hold in your heart is a vital part in creating a sincere and memorable blessing. That meeting can be by Skype video link across the world, or face to face on Ibiza, or the South West of England.It is also important that you like my ‘style’. Our meeting gives you that opportunity. Please email me, or call the local number of your choice, if I am in the other country it will transfer to me. Simply click that ‘green button’.
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Hello from the Magic White Island of Ibiza.I was privileged to enjoy my childhood in, sunny Cornwall, so sun, sea, sand and fresh air have always been a delightful platform for life. Ibiza has so many parallels, no wonder I feel so at home. Sea, sunshine, surrounded by rocky cliffs and beaches; and of course an abundance of ‘magik’, that incredible energy which binds the cosmosMy Celtic family heritage traces back several hundred years before the arrival of Christianity. My ancient ancestors were Druids, and I inherited a natural understanding and delight of being at one with the eternity of the cosmos.I am… a (very proud) father and grandfather, a husband, a teacher, an engineer, a manager, a mentor, a foodie, a sun & sea lover.I love and am loved, I have my health and freedom to enjoy the warmth of the Sun. What more could anyone wish for?Having spent most of my working life teaching and lecturing adults across what now seems an amazing spectrum of subjects, I find myself in a sort of retirement, and indulging a lifetime interest in astrology, writing blogs for various publications, and by popular demand, acting as celebrant for all sorts of occasions and events. I live and work in both Ibiza and the South West of England, and am happy to meet you in either location.The love of my life is Eileen, who is ‘ibizaeileen’ of ibizacakes.comand acclaimed by the press as ‘Ibiza’s Queen of Cakes’. We have both been blessed with various gifts; together we enjoy creating joyous lifetime memories for others with our efforts. I respect, applaud and admire the richness of individuality, and for the vital need for individuals to be treated as such. I find abhorrent the contemporary mentality of ‘one size fits all’ .My mission in life, a hang-over from teaching I suppose, is to provide answers and explanations that help and encourage fellow beings to reach their full growth potential.I believe in the unity of the cosmos, where everything is related and connected, both physically and spiritually…… to infinity. I do not ask that you share my beliefs, but I sincerely hope that you do believe in something.On Ibiza, many public gardens and facilities carry a request sign, the one word message in several languages……respect - Ilikethat.What am I about?
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If you do not have a strongly held religious belief and wish to be legally married in England and Wales, you are currently obliged to marry or undertake a civil partnership ceremony in an official Registry Office, or other officially approved venue.Some alternative ideas for your Ibiza wedding ceremony:Like other couples however, you will still want a ceremony which means something more; something personal. An alternative wedding/blessing ceremony that reflects just who you and your soul mate really are! You'll certainly not want to feel rushed. You may wish to express your vows to each other in words of your own choice. It may be formal, or thoroughly informal, and quite likely include a special part of the ceremony to be shared by more friends and family than a register office can accommodate, both in terms of space and time.You'd probably prefer also not to be limited to a licensed venue, but to hold your Ibiza Wedding Ceremony in a place which is special to you - on a boat, in a garden, on a beach, or in your own home. In all likelihood you’ll want to choose readings and music which mean something to you, as a couple. Choosing a Humanist blessing, or a Spiritual blessing as the alternative wedding ceremony and as a celebration of your commitment to each other may well provide the solution. Hedley Paul’s ceremony will allow you to not only enjoy exactly where, when, and with who you celebrate, but precisely how you would like it to be.Many couples who choose to have a non-religious wedding or partnership ceremony and first complete the legal formalities to obtain a civil marriage certificate at a Register Office. However, they regard their Humanist or their Spiritual wedding or partnership ceremony as the one which truly marks their life-long commitment to each other. This is the ceremony which is special to them and their guests, at which they make their vows and during which they choose to exchange rings. It is the marriage of the hearts of two soul mates.Commitment ceremonies are available to couples who wish to make a special testimony to each other, to publicly declare their promise in front of family and friends, without taking the step into legal marriage - for whatever reason.It is a public proclamation of the feelings shared by two people who love each other, providing them with an opportunity to have a meaningful ceremony, surrounded by family and friends.A commitment ceremony needs to be carefully planned and written, and delivered, It should include readings, a statement or vows of commitment, the exchange of rings, and music. It can take place in a garden, a home or any venue that is special to the couple.The ceremony should be delivered without bias of gender or religion. While not legal binding marriages, they are unquestionably a very real demonstration of commitment by the two people involved.Nothing in a Humanist or Spiritual ceremony will be offensive to those who hold a religious faith. It will focus sincerely and affectionately on the couple themselves. As a memento of the occasion, we create for you a unique and beautiful Certificate of Commitment to record the renewal of your vows, which we happily witness.Together we can create a beautiful ceremony that you will never forget, and is precisely to the agenda and style you wish. I would be delighted to make it very personal for you both, and include your story. Your unique account of how you met and how you feel about each other. Whether you wish the ceremony to be flamboyant, creative, or simple, it should truly reflect who you are.Whatever type of ceremony you choose remember, just relax and enjoy it. That done, your day will be perfect.
There often exists some confusion between Humanist beliefs and ceremonies, compared to Spiritualist beliefs and ceremonies. I will endeavour to explain the differences by providing an outline of their beliefs, which form the platform upon which their ceremonies and celebrations are founded.Humanism: - I have copied the following from the web site of the British Humanist Association, and I believe this provides the most accurate and unbiased presentation of the philosophy.Humanism is the view that we can make sense of the world using reason, experience and shared human values and that we can live good lives without religious or superstitious beliefs.Humanists seek to make the best of the one life we have by creating meaning and purpose for ourselves. We choose to take responsibility for our actions and work with others for the common good.Humanists do not believe in a God or gods, or any other supernatural or divine entities. Humanists do not think that the universe needs a divine power outside of itself in order to have value. We, inside the universe, determine its value. We think that other people, for example, are moral concerns, not because they are made in the image of Something Else, but because of who they are in themselves.What humanists believeHumanism is an approach to life based on humanity and reason – humanists recognise that moral values are properly founded on human nature and experience alone and that the aims of morality should be human welfare, happiness and fulfilment. Our decisions are based on the available evidence and our assessment of the outcomes of our actions, not on any dogma or sacred text.Humanism is a naturalistic view, encompassing atheism and agnosticism as responses to theistic claims, but is an active and ethical philosophy greater than these reactions to religion.Humanists believe in individual rights and freedoms, but believe that individual responsibility, social cooperation and mutual respect are just as important.Humanists believe that people can and will continue to find solutions to the world's problems, so that quality of life can be improved for everyone.Humanists are positive, gaining inspiration from our lives, art and culture, and a richnatural world.Humanists believe that we have only one life, it is our responsibility to make it a good life, and to live it flourishingly.and Spiritualism.....I have created a summary from various sources on the internet. I hope it portrays Spiritualism in a fair and just manner, as that was my intention and endeavour.
Spiritualism - Characteristic BeliefsThe central tenet of Spiritualism is the belief in and practice of mediumship which is considered to provide evidence of the continued existence of an individual's spirit or soul after death. A secondary belief is that spirits are in some way closer to God (Gods) than living humans, and that spirits themselves are capable of growth and perfection. The afterlife is therefore not a static place, but one in which spirits continue to evolve. The two beliefs: that contact with spirits is possible, and that spirits are more advanced than humans, leads to a third belief: that spirits enjoy timeless wisdom, and are consequently capable of providing profound enlightenment about moral and ethical issues, as well as about the nature of God (Gods) and the afterlife. Thus many Spiritualists will speak of their spirit guides - specific spirits, often contacted, who are relied upon for spiritual guidance.Spiritualism, although pre-dating it by several millenniums was adopted into the Christian environment and therefore Christianity retains many features in common: an essentially Spiritual moral system, a perceived belief in the concept of God, mystical pantheism, and liturgical practices such as prayer and singing. Nevertheless, on significant points the two faiths are quite different. Spiritualists do not believe that the acts of this life lead to the assignment of each soul into an eternity of either Heaven or Hell — rather, they view the afterlife as containing many hierarchically arrayed "spheres," through which each spirit can successfully progress. Spiritualists also differ from Christians in that the Judeo-Christian Bible is not the primary source from which they derive knowledge of God and the afterlife — their own personal contacts with spheres of experience beyond what is generally understood as "material" and their own contacts with "spirits" provides that source.Many Christians and Spiritualists alike appear to hold a duality of belief, considering both ‘camps’ to have much, but not total credibility. This appears to be a foundation for the contemporary practice of exchanging alternative wedding vows, and receiving alternative wedding blessings.Spiritualists generally speak only of the spirits of dead humans, and do not espouse a belief in spirits of trees, springs, or other natural features.Buddhism and Hinduism share a belief with Spiritualism in the separation of the soul from the body at death, and its continued existence. Unlike traditional Spiritualism, these faiths often believe in reincarnation.Spiritualism also differs from occult movements, such as contemporary Wiccan covens, in that spirits are not contacted in order to obtain magical powers (with the single exception of obtaining power for healing). Many individual Spiritualists draw heavily from the spiritual sects of Islam (Sufi), Judaism (Kabbalah) and Buddhism. Some Spiritualists follow one distinct religion's practices while others pull elements from any or all of the three religions to formulate their beliefs. Some Spiritualists believe in the idea of the universe as the creator, and don't necessarily follow any specific religion. Spiritualism is not readily distinguishable from the New Age movement, and like the New Age movement draws heavily from shamanism and embraces the idea of reincarnation.
Spiritual Ceremonies for Loving SoulsSpiritual marriage is based on the unconditional love of two souls: “I choose to love you, beyond our earthly existence.” The central principle of Spiritualism is the belief in and practice of mediumship which is considered to be the continued existence of an individual's spirit or soul after the death of their earthly body.A secondary belief is that souls are closer to the respective God (Gods) than their living humans, and that souls themselves are capable of growth and perfection. The afterlife is therefore not a static place, but one in which souls continue to evolve. Those two beliefs: that contact with spirits is possible, and that spirits are more advanced than humans, leads to a third belief: that spirits enjoy timeless wisdom, and are consequently capable of providing profound enlightenment about moral and ethical issues, as well as about the nature of God (Gods) and the afterlife. Thus many Spiritualists will speak of their spirit guides - specific spirits, often contacted, who are relied upon for spiritual guidance.Spiritualism, although pre-dating it by several millenniums was adopted and adapted into the Christian environment, and therefore Christianity retains many features in common: an essentially Spiritual moral system, a perceived belief in the concept of God, mystical pantheism, and liturgical practices such as prayer and singing. Nevertheless, on significant points the two faiths are quite different. Spiritualists do not believe that the acts of this life lead to the assignment of each soul into an eternity of either Heaven or Hell — rather, they view the afterlife as containing many hierarchically arrayed "spheres," through which each spirit can successfully progress. The two concepts of Heaven and Hell were invented by Judaism and subsequently adopted by Christianity and then by Islam. By comparison, Spiritualists have a concept of ‘Karma’ in which the cosmos will restore any imbalance created by evil doings.Spiritualists also differ from Christians in that the Judeo-Christian Bible is not the primary source from which they derive knowledge of God and the afterlife — their own personal contacts with spheres of experience beyond what is generally understood as "material" and their own contacts with "spirits" provides that source.Many Christians and Spiritualists alike appear to hold a duality of belief, considering both ‘camps’ to have much, but not total credibility. This appears to be a foundation for the contemporary practice of exchanging alternative wedding vows, and receiving alternative wedding blessings.Spiritualists generally speak only of the spirits of dead humans, and do not espouse a belief in spirits of trees, springs, or other natural features.Buddhism and Hinduism share a belief with Spiritualism in the separation of the soul from the body at death, and its continued existence. Unlike traditional Spiritualism, these faiths often believe in reincarnation.Spiritualism also differs from occult movements, such as contemporary Wiccan covens, in that spirits are not contacted in order to obtain magical powers (with the single exception of obtaining power for healing). Many individual Spiritualists draw heavily from the spiritual sects of Judaism (Kabbalah), Islam (Sufi), and Buddhism. Some Spiritualists follow one distinct religion's practices while others pull elements from any or all of the three religions to formulate their beliefs. Some Spiritualists believe in the idea of the universe as the creator, and don't necessarily follow any specific religion. Spiritualism is not readily distinguishable from the New Age movement, and like the New Age movement draws heavily from shamanism and embraces the idea of reincarnation.
Christian ceremonies by Hedley Paul for loving hearts and souls....Marriage is based on unconditional love. Christian marriage is a commitment to grow through the trials of relationship, for the goal of awakening and development of each person’s true Christian spiritual self.Spiritual marriage, although pre-dating it by several millenniums was adopted into first the Judao, and then the Christian environments and therefore Christianity retains many features in common: an essentially Spiritual moral system.While many couples seek an ‘alternative’ ceremony and blessing for their marriage, many wish to retain the ethos and tradition of a Christian marriage ceremony albeit outside the confines of a church building.Ibiza enjoys an incredibly beautiful and relaxed envirnment for a marriage, and where better place to revere the Creator by declaring your vows in the most magnificent venue of all - Ibiza - Nature’s own cathedral. This is the marriage of two hearts and two souls. The ‘legal bit’ still needs to be held in an official Registry in the UK, but your Ibiza ceremony with Hedley Paul will remain in your memory as the ‘real wedding’ - it reflects the marriage of two hearts and two souls.Hedley Paul was baptised a Christian, and followed that faith for many many years, incorporating Old Testament beliefs and philosophies. Gradually, other faiths and philosophies became incorporated into what is his pan-culture model of belief and faith.With this background, Hedley Paul can easily enhance a standard Christian ceremony with warm and pertinent readings and verses.Hedley Paul remembers always that the ceremony is YOUR’S and it must reflect precisely what you believe in.
Human nature, being what it is, attempts to categorise most things including what we believe. Even simply ‘believing’ places you in one box, while ‘non-believing’ places you in another. Philosophers attempt to define more clearly what we actually believe, and have established numerous ‘boxes’ into which they would place us. It can be confusing, - it was to me, so I thought it may be helpful to explain what some of the labels on the boxes actually meant in layman terms. The following is not intended to be a defining work of knowledge, just an attempt to simplify. I am sure however there will be those who will say that I have over-simplified. Almost all the content is taken from, or is a précis of Wikipedia articles.Theists in the broadest sense believe in at least one deity, or supreme power or intelligence. The term theism derives from the Greek ‘theos’ meaning god. ‘God’ is simply a label which people apply to ‘their’ deity.Monotheism is the belief in theology that only one deity exists. The concept of "monotheism" tends to be dominated by the concept of God in the Abrahamic religions, such as Judaism, Christianity, Islam and Druze, also share the Platonic concept of God, as well as the Advaita, Dvaita and Vishishtadvaita philosophies of Hinduism, although the latter philosophies admit the existence of a plethora of divine beings including less-powerful deities such as devas. Sikhism on the other hand, is a monotheistic Indian religion, in contrast to many schools of Hinduism and the other Indian religions. The concept of monotheism in Islam and Judaism however, is far more direct, their god's oneness (’God’) being understood as absolutely unquestionable.Polytheism is the belief that there is more than one deity. In practice, polytheism is not just the belief that there are multiple gods; it usually includes belief in the existence of a specific pantheon of distinct deities. Within polytheism there are hard and soft varieties: Hard polytheism views the gods as being distinct and separate beings; an example of this would be the Egyptian and Greek Religions; along with certain schools of Hinduism. Soft polytheism views the gods as being subsumed into a greater whole. Some forms of Hinduism such as Smartism/Advaita Vedanta serve as examples of soft polytheism.Pantheism: is a varietyof Polytheism. It is the belief that the physical universe is equivalent to a god or gods, and that there is no division between a Creator and the substance of its creation. God does not exist, God is.Atheists, in a broad sense, reject any belief in the existence of deities. In a narrower sense, atheism is specifically the position that there are no deities. The term atheism originated from the Greek ‘atheos’, meaning "without gods" For most people, atheism is simply the absence of belief that any deities exist. Atheism is contrasted with theism, which in its most general form is the belief that at least one deity exists. However, atheism also figures in certain religious and spiritual belief systems, such as some forms of Buddhism that do not advocate belief in gods. A chart showing the relationship between the definitions of weak/strong and implicit/explicit atheism. Explicit strong/positive/hard atheists (in purple on the right) assert that "at least one deity exists" is a false statement. Explicit weak/negative/soft atheists (in blue on the right) reject or eschew belief that any deities exist without actually asserting that "at least one deity exists" is a false statement. Implicit weak atheists (in blue on the left) would include people (such as young children and some agnostics) who do not believe in a deity, but have not explicitly rejected such belief.Agnostics are absent of belief, where theism and atheism require faith that there is or is not a deity or deities. An Agnostic would say, "I neither have a belief in a deity nor do I have a belief in the absence of such a deity." In his 1953 essay, What Is An Agnostic? Bertrand Russell states: An agnostic thinks it impossible to know the truth in matters such as God and the future life with which Christianity and other religions are concerned. Or, if not impossible, at least impossible at the present time.What may seem like dissonance is the position of Agnostic theism, this is the view of those who do not claim to know of the existence of any deity, but still believe in such an existence.
As a child, one of my greatest delights was to be enthralled by the stories read aloud by my parents, and by my teachers.As a parent, one of the greatest pleasures was in turn to fascinate and delight my children with stories read aloud.I still have unbounded enthusiasm for the fresh face given to a poem or story, when read by another.A book is like a garden carried in the pocket. Chinese Proverb Books are the quietest and most constant of friends: they are the most accessible and wisest of counsellors, and the most patient of teachers.Charles W. Eliot
The role of a Master of Ceremonies on Ibiza is to work closely with an event organizer, venue management and catering staff, and to act as facilitator for the event to ensure that everything is in place, and runs smoothly, efficiently and on time. During the event itself, in addition to making all announcements, presiding over the receiving line, announcing speeches and toasts, the Master of Ceremonies is a calming influence, remaining unobtrusive, inspiring confidence, and keeping always a watchful eye for the little things that need attention for the event to run flawlessly.Hedley Paul can work closely with you on the planning of your event, and will add just the right amount of gravitas, pomp, humour and theatre.Each event is of course unique, requiring structure with adaptability.Below are examples of events which I may be able to help you make a success:Wedding Celebrations of all faiths, Civil Partnerships, Corporate Dinners, Awards Nights, Sales Conferences, Charity Balls, Charity Lunches, Charity Dinners, Graduation Ceremonies, Dinner Dances, Event Openings, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Exhibitions, Product Launches
A chuppah/chuppa or “huppah” is a canopy under which a wedding ceremony, a naming ceremony, or a blessing takes place.The canopy is a multifaceted symbol: It is a home, a garment and a bed covering. Its openness recalls the tent of the biblical Abraham, a paragon of hospitality, who kept his tents open on all sides so that visitors would know they were welcome. Our luxury chuppas are high quality constructions, not simply a cheap garden gazebo or few bits of wood. The chuppa is commonly used for weddings and blessings of all beliefs. It also serves well for welcoming and naming ceremonies. Of course, a chuppa in Ibiza acts as a very welcome shade for the couple and the celebrant, or or for the baby and parents, while hopefully the gathered guests have been similarly shaded.Our luxury chuppas feature ‘tented’ interiors, fully draped legs, draped pelmet and a weatherproof canopy (yes it does rain in Ibiza sometimes) together with windowed weatherproof sides if required. Ribbon decoration can easily be added, matching the bridal dress, or wedding theme. We work closely with excellent and reliable florists, who can not only provide all your formal flowers, but will decorate the chuppa to complement your wedding theme. Whatever style, colour or decoration you desire, we can provide the chuppah of your dreams!Should you also require chairs for your guests, we can arrange their provision, or help you find (without charge) other providers.Chuppas on Ibiza are available independently of blessings, however if rented together with a blessing from us a significant discount is offered.History of the chuppa:-I felt it fitting to give a little background information on the chuppah, so the following is taken from Wikipedia, and may be interesting to those whose backgrounds and experiences have not acquainted them with its origins.The chuppah represents a Jewish home, as symbolized by the cloth canopy and the four poles. Just as a chuppah is open on all four sides, so the tent of Abraham was open for hospitality. Symbolically, the chuppah represents hospitality to one's guests. This "home" initially lacks furniture as a reminder that the basis of home is the people within it, not the possessions. In a spiritual sense, the covering of the chuppah represents the presence of the Creator over the covenant of marriage. The groom enters the chuppah first to represent his ownership of the home on behalf of the couple. When the bride then enters the chuppah it symbolises the groom providing her with shelter or clothing, and he thereby publicly demonstrates his new responsibilities toward her. (Courtesy of Wikipedia)The Ibiza huppa remains strongly symbolic as that ‘special place’ where vows are given and blessings received.So how much will it cost?
AT-A-GLANCE:•You can legally marry in Spain if one of you is an official resident. (in a Town Hall, possibly a church if one of you is RC)•You can legally marry in Spain if one of you is a (practicing) Roman Catholic. (resident or not)•You can legally marry in an embassy in Spain - but that is not Spanish territory.You can get legally married in Spain if neither of you are Spanish. It’s complicated, tedious, expensive, but it can be done. Depending upon your circumstances, nationality/status/faith and not forgetting financial circumstances, it may be prudent to engage a specialist and English speaking ‘Abogado’ (Spanish lawyer) to assist you.Alternatively there is a growing trend towards having a civil (Registry Office) wedding in a couple's home country, then followed by a more personal, intimate civil wedding ceremony and blessing (which has all the elements of a wedding service i.e. exchange of vows and rings) and has the great advantage that you decide the vows, music, readings etc. As blessing can be held in a very wide variety of venues, you can choose your dream location for your special ceremony.(See ‘Marriage Blessings’ below) Civil and religious (Roman Catholic, Protestant, Jewish and Muslim) marriages can be celebrated in Spain for people over 18, making you legally married. While Spanish law appears to permit foreigners to marry in Spain, in practice it will usually be necessary for one of the couple to have been legally resident in Spain for at least two years. An application for marriage in Spain will usually involve lengthy and time-consuming paperwork, and applicants should therefore allow plenty of time. Officials will undoubtedly insist on speaking in Spanish, so be prepared with an interpreter. (also, ensure you have ALL your documents , ALL copied in triplicate.Civil and religious marriages between foreigners or a foreigner and a Spanish national are possible in Spain. Agreements between the State and the major non-Catholic faiths governing the acceptance of religious marriage ceremonies are being finalised and should be possible.Subject to the agreement of individual priests, it may be possible to have a civil marriage blessed in a non-catholic church.Roman Catholic MarriagesCatholics of any country can be married legally in Spain. If one of the parties is Catholic and the other not, then marriage is still possible with a Dispensation, which must be requested from their Bishopric. Neither party can be divorced. These are matters for the local Archbishop in the area of the forthcoming marriage and, in general, a baptism certificate and a statutory declaration by the parents of the (English) party to the effect that their son/daughter is single, is required. Formalities do, however, vary significantly from parish to parish and the requirements should be checked well in advance with the local priest. Please note the demand for Catholic churches is extremely high, so booking must be made well in advance.Civil Marriages Documentation: * A birth certificate (accompanied by a sworn translation) * Passport, Consular registration Certificate. * Certificate of Residence. If not a permanent resident in Spain, you can sign an affidavit before a Consular Officer indicating your place of residence for the last 6 years, as well as your temporary residence in Spain. * Consular Certificate of No-Impediment to the marriage are required. * Divorce/Annulment Certificate of any previous marriages. * If applicable an original death certificateFormalities may vary so applicants should check which precise documents are needed, and in what languages.A notice of intention to marry is displayed on a Consular notice board for 21 days. The notice itself is sworn by the applicant and can only be accepted if he/she has been residing for a 21 day period in the area where the notice is displayed.Where one of the parties to the forthcoming marriage is resident in the UK and will be coming to Spain for the marriage ceremony they should approach the nearest Spanish Consulate in the UK for full information.If proof of UK residence is needed, a letter can be obtained from the local Electoral Registration Office.All documents that are in English have to have the Hague Apostille on them. This is available from the following address:Legislation OfficeForeign and Commonwealth OfficeAdmiralty OfficeLondon SW1A 2LGTel 0207 008 1111 Website All documents must then be translated into Spanish and presented at the relevant town hall at least 3 months before the planned wedding.It is important to bear in mind that the Spanish delight in their administrative procedures, so paperwork will invariably be lengthy and time consuming, making forward planning imperative; especially if you’re getting married in the summer.Same Gender Weddings in SpainA wedding is a celebration of the love between two people, whether it is two men, two women or a man and a woman. Spain has become the 3rd country to legalise same gender weddings and partnerships.For couples that live in Spain, or who own property and can therefore obtain their Certificate of Empadramiento it is now possible to have a civil wedding in Spain. For more information on the paperwork required for same sex weddings please contact the local Town Hall.For more information on same gender wedding blessings and ceremonies: Whilst all effort is made to make sure that this information is up to date, we accept no responsibility for any errors or omissions that may occur. We advise consultation with an Abogado (Spanish lawyer).
A funeral or life celebration ceremony is a personal and memorable occasion. It should be delivered with dignity and sincerity. It is a celebration of a person’s life, and the love that lives on within their family and dear ones. It is important for me to highlight and genuinely celebrate the person when delivering a eulogy or tribute. It is a paramount honour to be chosen.Some people wish for a specifically religious service, while others may feel that a traditional religious ceremony is inappropriate to the subject. They may feel that something morespiritual, or spiritualist, or indeed humanist (i.e. no religion or spirituality) is appropriate. Everyone is different; I happily respect your beliefs when preparing a eulogy, or obituary that is special to you, or your loved one. I do appreciate that not everyone shares my view about the soul and its continuation after physical death, nor that a funeral, although at a time of sadness, is the place for joy and celebration. I respect and incorporate the differing views present at a funeral, I hope that people will do the same for me.What I offer:-I endeavour to prepare a ceremony which takes into account the wishes and beliefs of the deceased, as far as can be established, and any other significant people in their lives. Given our increasingly global society, I encounter families who incorporate different religious denominations, as well as people who are professed atheists and agnostics. Naturally, there are different beliefs and perspectives within families - some very traditional, others more contemporary; some wish to honour and celebrate a life that was lived to the full, others feel that a quiet and reflective approach is more appropriate. My challenge is to strike the right note. Each ceremony is unique, but there are some common key elements to them all. The differences lie in the extent to which the ceremony has a religious flavour (and if so which faith), is more spiritual, spiritualist, or is more humanist. Sometimes a ceremony will include elements of all of those approaches.Here is a basic for you to consider. I can provide as much or as little as you wish. I can adapt to your beliefs, wishes and circumstances, with your own thoughts and ideas incorporated.Welcome Outlining the purpose and nature of ceremony A prayer (if religious) or a moment of silent dedication A reading and / or song / hymn The address by myself Tribute or eulogy to the deceased - by family or friend Other tributes (if appropriate) - by family or friend Honouring any religious or spiritual practices where relevant. A moment of silence Final prayer (if religious)Bereavement counsellingBereavement and the grieving process is very complex and stressful. The loss of a loved one may totally devastate those of us they leave behind. There is nothing odd nor weak about grieving. It is something that almost all of us will experience at one point in our lives. We all grieve in our own way, everyone is different and people recover at different rates.You may be able to do it on your own, or with the invaluable help of close friends and family. What you don't need is someone telling you to ‘pull yourself together’. Some of us will need some extra help, perhaps in the form of bereavement counselling or a support group. If you do need help, then reach out for it. You're not the first person to need external help and most certainly you will certainly not be the last.I undertook a bereavement counselling course in the attempt to gain some understanding after my father’s death. Subsequently I worked as a volunteer counsellor at the Tadworth Court Children’s Hospital. I believe I have been able to help others. I am not a professional counsellor, but I may be able to offer some empathy, insights and comfort.
All is well.....Death is nothing at allI have only slipped away into the next roomI am I and you are youWhatever we were to each otherThat we are still;Call me by my old familiar nameSpeak to me in the easy way you always usedPut no difference into your toneWear no forced air of solemnity or sorrowLaugh as we always laughedAt the little jokes we always enjoyed togetherPlay, smile, think of me, pray for meLet my name be ever the household word that it always wasLet it be spoken without effortWithout the ghost of a shadow in itLife means all that it ever meantIt is the same as it ever wasThere is absolute unbroken continuityWhat is death but a negligible accident?Why should I be out of mindBecause I am out of sight?I am waiting for you for an intervalSomewhere very nearJust around the cornerAll is well.Nothing is past; nothing is lostOne brief moment and all will be as it was before How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
The reason why....I have included this page, and this poem by Canon Henry Scott-Holland is that it gave me great comfort after the death of my father, who I loved very much.Memories are wonderful. You do not ever forget loved ones, you simply find a place in your heart where they reside.If you are recently bereaved, please accept my loving wishes for comfort from the pain, and its easing, which comes with acceptance.
Your dream wedding?That yummy fairy tale moments you relished just as you were dropping off to sleep.Your wedding and blessing ceremony on Ibiza should be the most beautiful, memorable, and magical moments in your whole life.It is therefore vital that you find ‘the best’ celebrant, and Hedley Paul fulfils the quest for your Dream Wedding on Ibiza.Creating and delivering the ceremony is a specialist task if it is to be the life time memory you and your family deserve. Hedley Paul takes great pride in his very personal and professional approach to making your day special. He firmly believes that you deserve better than an off-the-shelf ‘This is what we do’ ceremony as part of typical all-inclusive wedding packages.While some couples use wedding planners, others diligently search the internet themselves, which can be a daunting task. It’s always uncertain territory, not always knowing who is genuinely trying to help, and who is simply after a kickback commission.Hedley Paul is the preferred ceremony provider for many premier wedding planners and venues, and is very happy to deal directly with you, meticulously working with other specialists to deliver your perfect wedding ceremony on Ibiza. As the foremost English wedding celebrant on Ibiza he is totally independent – working with the couple, rather than for wedding planners or designers on what is the most personal aspect of your wedding day. Every ceremony is individually crafted in dicussions with you.Professional, confident and competent, Hedley Paul delivers beautiful weddings of the heart for loving couples. Hedley Paul IS the Ibiza Dream Catcher.His weddings and renewal blessings on Ibiza focus on the wonder and magic of the energy and love between soul-mates who have found their anam cara.You can judge him by a few of the complimentary comments and pictures of past weddings.A father and grand-father, Hedley Paul holds dearly the ethos of providing for his clients precisely what he would expect for his children or grand-children: The very best, in an open and honest manner!Each ceremony is carefully prepared in accord with the wishes of the couple to ensure that it is a lifetime memory. He emphasises that it is their ceremony and must reflect their personal wishes, values and beliefs.He believes in being fair and open. His fees are clearly shown on the ‘Prices’ page on his web site, and reflect the time and effort and skills he puts into crafting and delivering a ceremony.Hedley Paul’s lovely wife Eileen also works with Ibiza wedding couples, designing and creating the very finest world class wedding cakes. Her work is published in several wedding cake magazines, featuring both traditional and contemporary designs of her exquisite sugar-craft artistry. Not without good reason was she crowned ‘Ibiza’s Queen of Cakes’ by local and international press.Working separately or together, they can provide the two most important components to make your special day exceptional – a beautiful and memorable ceremony followed by a delicious and breath-taking ibizacakes work of art.
There are not enough words to do justice to how wonderful our ceremony was, except to say it was absolutely perfection. Anyone planning to marry on the White Isle should look no further than booking Hedley Paul. We communicated through email mainly, with one phone call and then a face to face pre meet at the Venue, La Casita which was also out of this world. For the picture perfect wedding I would highly recommend both Hedley for the ceremony & Johannes at La Casita for the venue, I promise you won't regret it.The wording was so well thought out & beautifully written. The sand ritual was just magical.I would say we found him by chance but I can't help but think Ibiza may have chosen you.Thank you for everything - 5 Stars!Comment: That was the most beautiful wedding ceremony I’ve ever heard. You realise you had all the women crying... and lots of the men too! Hi Paul. I just wanted to get in touch and say what a fabulous day we had yesterday. Christine was absolutely fabulous and we had many comments from guests on how unique and special the ceremony was. Please thank Eileen - the cake was incredible and looked beautiful and most of all tasted amazing! Thank you again D & D xI just wanted to say a massive thank you for our beautiful wedding vow renewal on Sunday. I'm not sure how many grooms have been taken poorly, but he was still blown away by the service and location (and the surprise of it all!) I'd recommend you to everyone and Cotton Beach Club is just stunning!! Thank you, thank you, thank you, it was everything i'd dreamed of and we're taking some incredible, precious memories away with us from our beloved Ibiza this year. Thank you to your lovely wife too for her scrummy cakes! Xx Lee & EmGood afternoon Paul, Just wanted to say thank you for conducting our blessing on Monday 26th May We have had the most incredible 3 weeks, it’s been such a roller coaster and we can’t believe 1) it’s over and 2) how amazing it all was. All of our guest commented about how lovely the service was and we have you to thank for that - so thank you! Keep well and look after yourself, Danny & NealyHi Paul, Hope you are well, just wanted to say thank you for your help and the ceremony. Also please see the link below for the pictures that Marc took on the day. If there is any you woud like to use please feel free. All the best, Tanya and GregHey Paul and Eileen, Just a quick note to say thank you so much for all your work for our weddingEileen - the cakes were delicious and looked so fab! They were exactly how I envisaged them they looked so cute!Paul - the ceremony was fantastic and thank you for guiding us through everything so expertly and calmly when we were both pretty nervous!We truly had the best day ever, and we will never forget it, so thank you for being a part of helping make that happen. I hope the rest of the season goes well for you. Best Wishes, Claire and Nathan xGood Morning Hedley, Once again thank you for our blessing, it was perfect for us, just what we had envisaged!! Can you please thank your wife for the cupcakes, they are amazing, I have hopefully managed to get some of the roses home intact!! Thanks again, Elaine and Les xHello Hedley- I hope you're ok. A massive thank you from both of us for yesterday. It was a fab ceremony and an event we'll never forget! Please pass on our thanks to Eileen for the cakes. We continued into the evening, although the formal wedding breakfast turned into a plate of nachos back at Pikes as we ended our day! If it's useful for me to provide a testimonial or something please let me know. Thanks again. It was a pleasure meeting you. Best wishes Dave + MaxHi Paul, I just wanted to say another HUGE thank you for making our day so special. Can we do a testimonial for your website or anything like that? Also, if you would like to use any of Marc's pictures then please be our guest!! We feel Ibiza (& Es Vedra in particular) is now such a spiritual place for us - I can't stop thinking about how you said Ibiza chose us - we didn't really know why we decided on Ibiza but after hearing you say this and the fact that we changed venues to being so close to Es Vedra, I believe this statement to be entirely true!! Thanks again Paul, you really helped make our day surpass all expectations! Best wishes, J and HHi Hedley Just wanted to say a huge thanks again for yesterday, your words were truly amazing and everything thought the ceremony was beautiful, it was perfect. Thank you again J and J Hi Hedley, thank you so much for everything! everything was perfect. i posted some pictures on your facebook. the view is so amazing, most people don't believe it's real haha! i will post up my pictures soon. Best, PThanks again for your guidance and awesome ceremony script. We're very happy that your name was suggested to us :) A & CGood afternoon Hedley, M and I just wanted to drop you an email to say a huge thank you for performing such a beautiful ceremony for us. It was perfect! We loved the fact that you incorporated the bottle and sand into our ceremony as we had this in mind with the letters. Many of our guests said what a lovely ceremony it was and M’s dad commented about parts of your speech which he said he learned something new from, which we also did. We would love to leave you some feedback for your website, is this something you’d like us to do? Can I also ask if you’re able to email over a final copy of our vows which we’d like to keep as a wedding keepsake? Once again, many thanks for making our day so special. H & MHiHP We are really enjoying our honeymoon thank you! It was a total pleasure to have both you and Eileen with us at the ceremony and meal! I can't thank you enough not only for a beautiful blessing but for the help and support you offered helping making it a reality. If it wasn't for you I don't think it would have happened and myself and Mrs W will be forever thankful. From the moment we met you both you have been helpful, warm, generous and sincere people. We hope we will remain on contact with you for many years to come! If you are ever on the midland and need a room don't hesitate to contact us and yes our future trips to Ibiza will now have to encompass a sunset trip to es vedra and a coffee and cake on your terrace! Take care and keep in touch! All our love, C and S W x Hi HP, We just wanted to say THANK YOU for making the ceremony so lovely and "us". Everyone really appreciated your calmness and interesting things you said. People went crazy to find some quartz... hehe Thank you again! Sincerely, P&M Dear Hedley Paul We've just arrived back in the UK and I wanted to take the first opportunity to thank you again for such a beautiful naming ceremony. Everyone commented on how much warmth, dignity and grace you brought to the ceremony and I couldn't agree more. You welcomed A. into the world in such a kind and generous way it made her day truly magical. We can't thank you enough. With very warm wishes N,J, and A.Our Renewal of Vows was wonderful! Thank you so much - it was all we hoped for and more! G&SYou made our day, your blessing was a blessing for sure. Thanks so much, it will be with us forever! xx (pic by Eva Kuiper) R and I can't thank you enough for the beautiful ceremony @Amante. We loved every minute of it, you made it so personal and meaningful! It was, by far, the most beautiful day of both our lives! A big thank you to you and Eileen. R&C Dear Paul, Just to say thank you for taking our blessing ceromony, we had the best day ever!!!! S. :) Hi Paul, Just a quick thank you for our wonderful ceremony on Sunday. It was absolutely perfect and exactly how we'd always imagined our wedding ceremony to be, although we'd never thought we'd be able to achieve it. Huge thanks and very best wishes. V&CHi Paul, As promised, the wedding photos's for you. Feel free to use some on your website if you wish. Thanks again, the ceremony was lovely, and everyone said they enjoyed it :) P & S 2012 Hi Paul & Eileen, Thank you so much for the wonderful Ceremony you performed for us. It was really special and very touching. We can't thank you enough for making it an amazing day to remember. The cupcakes were so beautiful, everyone loved them. K & AHi Paul ,just to say thank you for a lovely blessing ,everything went smooth !!!!!!!!!! S&L Hi Paul, I hope you are well and still enjoying life in Ibiza, you lucky thing! We just wanted to say thanks for all your work and words that you said for our ceremony, we had a wonderful day and a wonderful time in Ibiza. It was a blessing meeting you on the Sunday before as it calmed us down a lot and we felt much happier going into the final evening! I've attached a wee photo of you on the day. E & M Hi Paul and Eileen, Hope all is ok in Ibiza? I want to thank you both for making the day great, the service was lovely Paul and everyone comented on the lovely relaxed feel to it, which is just what we wanted. Everyone commented on how scrummy the cakes were, they all went in a flash so that tells you how good tey were, unfortunately I never got one! Roll on next year and our return to the lovely island. K & M Good Evening Hedley Paul, Eileen, Hedley Paul - from the moment we met you we knew that you were perfect to conduct our ceremony. You made it so personal and interesting, and we loved all of the little touches that we'd not thought about (the importance of a father 'giving away' his daughter, and the magic of Ibiza). Everyone commented on the service and said how beautiful it was. You also made us both feel completely at ease (not easy on such an emotionally charged occasion!) and we can't wait to watch it all over again on the DVD that a family friend is making for us.T & L Eileen - what can I say? The cakes were OUT OF THIS WORLD! Tom mentioned how beautiful the cakes looked the minute we'd walked back up the aisle! I knew (from the many samples you'd provided us with on the previous trips to Ibiza) that they would be amazing, but they exceeded my expectations. The tiny details you'd thought about such as matching the topper of feathers to my fan (that I had instead of flowers), the tiny hearts on the cupcakes, and the beautiful stargazer lillies completely overwhelmed us both. On top of this - they tasted sublime! We do actually have a chef as a close friend and he too raved about the lemon cake in particular! We took the chocolate cake back to our villa (where we were staying with family) the day after the wedding - and actually had 2 x family birthdays the following Friday - so the cake doubled as a birthday cake and was enjoyed by us all (not a crumb was left!). If either of you need any testimonials or anything for your websites/blogs please DO let me know - you honestly were a pleasure to meet (it was fate that we found you that day last year!), get to know, and to finally have at our wedding. You both helped to make it the best day of our lives and we can't thank you enough. T & LHi Hedley, Hope you guys are well, thanks again for giving us such a beautiful ceremoney and cake!! O & LHi Paul, I wanted to email you to say thank you again for a beautiful wedding ceremony last Saturday and for all your help, support & involvement - it has been lovely working with you over the past year or so - everything came together perfectly last weekend .........the vows of commitment we said to each other. They were just perfect. Thanks again for everything, really appreciate it all. F & L Hi Paul, Happy you have the pics and like them - of course, please feel free to use them on your site. I will of course recommend you. All good. Lovely to meet you and will be in touch next time on the island. L & JHi Hedley Paul, Just a little hello and a thank you email from me and C..... Once again we would like to thank you for being part of our special day. All the guests we have spoken to said everything about it was fantasic, and the blessing was amazing. Also say thanks to Eileen for us, all the cakes went, but of course we have not eaten the top cake yet, we brought it back in good condition. Here is a few photos of the cakes, I’ll forward some of us three on the roof in a bit. M & C Hi Hedley Paul and Eileen, Tim and I just wanted to say thank you so much for everything! Our guests had nothing but praise for the service and the beautiful cakes! You really helped make the day very special! T & S
MypricesareallinBritishPoundsSterling.IacceptpaymentinSterlingorEuro. Please take time to read our Payment policyCeremony feesWedding Vows and Blessing with readings and/or poems.To plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you, act as host and deliver the ceremony, plus an 'Order of Ceremony' card for each guest. It includes a beautiful Certificate of Commitment in a protective folder: 2018 - £5252019 - £600
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However, if additional services are provided, eg sound system, there is an additional cost.If the ceremony is on Formentera, the fee will of course be higher, to reimburse travelling expenses.Renewal of VowsTo plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you, act as host and deliver the ceremony, plus an 'Order of Ceremony' card for each guest. 2018 - £4752019 - £525This assumes a smaller more private gathering.Sound support services for Ibiza ceremoniesFor guest numbers over 30 and up to 150 + you may require my professional PA sound system.For assembly music, procession and recession accompaniments, making your vows and commitments:- 2018 - £150(This price is on the proviso I am providing the ceremony). This equipment is suitable for larger ceremonies, where a microphone is needed to ensure all present can hear the readings, vows and blessings. Two wireless and a wired microphone are included, to be used in conjunction with music input from either an iPod or CD player. Additionally, an input from a musical instrument/vocalist can be included.This system can be used where there in no available power source.Small sound systemFor assembly music, procession and recession accompaniments, recorded tracks and accompaniments:- £25 (assumes I am providing the ceremony). This system is suitable for small ceremonies, It is battery powered, and links with 3.5mm jack cable, or by which means you can bring your music on a smartphone or iPad etc.OtherceremoniesandreadingsLife Ceremony - Readings and EulogyTo plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you if appropriate, act as host and deliver the ceremony, which includes an 'Order of Ceremony' card for each person:- 2018 - £475.2019 - £525Naming/Welcoming CeremonyTo plan with you & create the ceremony, rehearse with you, act as host and deliver the ceremony, and includes an 'Order of Ceremony' card for each guest and certificates for the subject and immediate group:- 2018 - £475.2019 - £525Luxury chuppa hireTo deliver/erect/dismantle a luxury white 'Chuppa' with tented interior roof:- £400 Decoration with flowers and/or ribbons etc would be additional.ReadingsThese are by discussion, however please remember that sometimes a five minute reading can take several hours to prepare and rehearse.Please contact me so we can talk through your precise wishes..e: firstname.lastname@example.orgYou can call the local number of your choice, if I am in the other country it will transfer to me.Ibiza (+34)England (+44)t: 971 338 244t: 020 8123 0262m: 664 689 575 m: 07909 917 120
Remember to always say 'I love you'.Sometimes we forget what is important in life. The most important things are to love, and to be loved. That is our sole and our soul’s purpose.When love is new, we frequently say how we love someone; when our children are small, we reassure them by reminding of our love for them. As they grow older it's probably not very 'cool' to be told by Mum or Dad that they love you. Mums and Dads too may find it slightly disconcerting to tell a teenager that they love them.At an early age I heard a story of the sadness over a tragic unexpected parting, where there had been no chance of a fond farewell.In later life, again, I witnessed a father’s grief at having lost his adult son. This was at a time when my children were little.I realised that such a thing could happen to me, and just how devastating it would be.I determined then that whenever we parted I would tell them I loved them. My children are now adults, and despite a little awkwardness (on both sides) when they were teenagers, we continue to hug and kiss whenever we meet or part. We tell each other we love them, as a parting whenever we speak.This page was prompted by my recent reading of a eulogy by a man to his beloved late wife who had suddenly and recently died. He expressed sadness and regret at their rushed parting on that morning of her death, having not made the time to say that they loved each other.I felt so very very sad for him, not to have heard and hold that treasure of “I love you” as her final words.So - Remember to always say'I love you'.
Words are powerfully evocative - a phrase or a few cliché words can inspire us,Music too. Music takes us to our past, to our dreams, and to breathless heights yet undreamed of.Your ceremony is witnessed not only in physical terms by those present, but emotionally too. The energy of their love wells up and strengthens the magnetism which pulls you together as a couple. Clothe that moment of focus with threads of music, to evoke a wave of emotion, and passion. Little wonder that so many shed tears of happiness.Your ceremony can include several components of musical accompaniment. The assembly music, played as people gather and wait in anticipation.The processional music, to accompany the bride as she walks to join her husband to be.The recessional music, to accompany the happy couple as they withdraw down the aisle.You have the option of music, or song, either recorded or liveThe choice of music for each of these can be challenging. Your 'special song' maybe? Well chosen music helps to create the memorable occasion that is your special day. Feel free to waltz down the aisle, or maybe jump and jive as your first steps together. Remember though, this is your wedding, and Ibiza has no rules!If you find the choice is hard, please talk to me as it, maybe a fresh mind can draw light to a solution.If music be the food of love....
Canyourwedding guests hearyourwords clearly ?????????An Ibiza wedding on a beach or in the open air is one of the delights of the island. Being at one with nature, enjoying the sun, the blue skies, and the magnificent views will melt anyones heart. But can your guests hear what you are saying? Nature has two sides and the gently crashing waves may be peaceful when you walk hand-in-hand along the sand, but when you are nervously reciting your vows, those waves will probably be drowned for most of your family and friends. In the countryside, the rustling of leaves and foliage will also muffle sound.Remember how in a church with bare walls, the sound is quite sharp due to reflected sound. In the open air of course, there is no reflected sound to help carry our voices. During my career years it was fascinating to note the different sound characteristics in lecture theatres and halls, and similarly in different churches. Open air events are far more demanding acoustically that interior events.Being a wedding guest on Ibiza involves considerable effort and expense. To go to that trouble and then not be able to hear you say your vows would be very disappointing.Many beach weddings are held adjacent to restaurants which front onto beaches and have a sound system provides music for their guests as they dine or chill by the sea. Having music rolling out across the sand is great, but hearing your vows broadcast loud and wide across the beach is not quite the same. Only a few venues have systems which lend themselves to wedding ceremonies, and invariably they have a dedicated set-up.It is for that very reason that I offer the provision of a high quality professional PA sound system which perfectly suits beach or open air events. It is capable of addressing open air audiences of 120+ people. It features a four speaker system, with multiple channel inputs for up to four microphones, or musicians input in place of one or more microphone. The microphones are all specifically chosen for their voice recognition qualities. It additionally has inputs for iPod or CD player, allowing music of your personal choice for processions up and down the aisle. If four mics ar required, I tend to use two wireless, and two wired units. It is all fully operational on battery packs, and therefore is not hindered by last minute challenges of ‘where’s the power supply?’Naturally if a venue has a satisfactory systerm, mine is not needed, but sound is a detail which can be easily overlooked or even dismissed. When selecting a venue, be sure to ask if they have a suitable sound system, and what facilities it offers. If possible, have it demonstrated exactly as it will be provided to you. For details of current prices of the sound systems, please look at the prices page.For smaller groups, I have a portable